an intense character study
Before I Forget (2008)
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Reviews Counted: 18
Fresh: 16
Rotten:2
Average Rating: 7.1/10
Theatrical Release: Jul 18, 2008 Limited
Synopsis: The third in a trilogy of semi-autobiographical films by writer-director Jacques Nolot (PORN THEATER), BEFORE I FORGET is a harsh and darkly deadpan character study at the intersection of aging, homosexuality and prostitution. Pierre... The third in a trilogy of semi-autobiographical films by writer-director Jacques Nolot (PORN THEATER), BEFORE I FORGET is a harsh and darkly deadpan character study at the intersection of aging, homosexuality and prostitution. Pierre (played by Nolot himself) is an HIV-positive male escort on the precarious precipice of 60, set adrift by the death of his longtime sugar daddy. When his ex-lover's family cuts Pierre out of the will, the hustler's prospects for a comfortable twilight are thrown into jeopardy. Too old to get a new patron and too long steeped in the life of selling sex to find a new career, Pierre is increasingly resigned to awaiting his own death. In his inability to move forward, he instead begins to look back: he visits fellow hustlers (hiring the younger ones as sexual companions), reminisces with a therapist about his recently ended "arrangement," and finally begins to write his memoirs. Seething with Nolot's trademark lack of romance, BEFORE I FORGET nonetheless achieves profound serenity despite its warnings of the perils of age. While Pierre's situation is desperate, Nolot's performance and direction create an overall atmosphere of acceptance; what the elderly escort loses in optimism, he makes up for in awareness. Nolot self-deprecatingly reveals his own naked body not only to make clear Pierre's withering assets (highly damning in his chosen line of work), but also to hint at a sense of brazen self-assuredness--a gift, if the only one, of the character's advancing years. The filmmaker's stark, minimalist visuals and Pierre's wry, ruminating dialogue depict a life that may have lost purpose, but will never lack meaning. [More]
Starring: Jacques Nolot, Jean-Pol Dubois, Marc Rioufol, Bastien d'Asnieres
Starring: Jacques Nolot, Jean-Pol Dubois, Marc Rioufol, Bastien d'Asnieres, Gaetano Weysen-Volli, Bruno Moneglia, David Kessler, Remy Le Fur, Jean Pommier
Director: Jacques Nolot
Director: Jacques Nolot
Producer: Pauline Duhault
Composer: Gustave Malher
Studio: Strand Releasing
Reviews for Before I Forget
[Jacques] Nolot, in his actor's hat, creates a melancholy, often-sad character that I grew to have a great deal of empathy for.
Before I Forget is a film one can admire, but it is not 'likable,' per se, nor does its director wish it to be.
[A] strikingly different and oddly funny French drama about a 60-year-old former hustler-turned-writer whose later years aren't exactly golden.
Before I Forget is, in the broad sense, 'gay-themed'. But it's also one of the loveliest, most direct and most devastating pictures about aging that I've ever seen.
Not a lot of ground is covered, but that might just be the point. The end of days are near, and the film is the interim itself, watching a man wind down ever so slowly while trying for a few last gasps to stave it off.
An unblinking portrait of a complicated, solitary gay man who has outlived his working years.
With verbose and eloquent characters (let alone the fog of cigarette smoke), Before I Forget won't easily shake off the label of a "French film," and all that that implies.
It's a simple-looking film with a complicated center. But there's a kind of sadness in the film that remains untapped, perhaps because Pierre himself isn't ready for it.
It's hardly a rosy picture of what it's like to be gay and 60 in Paris. But it's an engrossing picture.
Nolot’s portrait of senescence isn’t about rainbow visions; his film, one of the most honest, courageous and witty of the year, instead looks at decay, insufferable loss and humiliation--all endured...with defiant, wilfull abjection.
This isn’t gay self-hatred, but an authentic unnerving portrait; it dares to oppose cinema's false romanticism with ruthless honesty.
What saves Before I Forget from unenlightening depression is not just Nolot's refusal to beg for audience pity, but also his dry sense of humor.
There is not a single laugh or really emotionally involving moment one can cling to here.
The film doesn’t feel like a tragedy, but instead a droll slice of life -- perhaps a bit too muted and overlong, but often compelling in its own way.
[Jacques] Nolot writes, directs, and stars as Pierre Pruez, an HIV-positive bottom boy-no-longer who navigates his ruined life and beauty with aplomb.
Third installment in Jacques Nolot's trilogy on the pragmatic side of gay life finds the straight-shooting poet of matter-of-fact sexual transactions in fine narrative form, exhibiting his aging body and mindset without a trace of vanity.
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